Too Much of a Good Thing

Church Family

Last night my son’s soccer coach dropped by to pick up his son who had spent the day at our place. We talked about the craziness in the sports world that has the potential to affect our families in negative ways. Consider just the time investment; many parents spend every evening of the week running their kids to and fro for practices and games…and for what purpose? Are they planning for their son to be the next Wayne Gretzky or Kobe Bryant?

At this point we have our kids in recreational soccer. It’s really helped us interface with our community, given us connection with new friends, and supplied an outlet for our children’s energy. All in all it’s been a great experience without robbing every moment of our time. But take it up a notch with select leagues? Good-bye family time!

This got me thinking on something else. Is it possible to experience too much church? Are you tiring of attending every church function? Is Sunday no longer a day of rest but the beginning of a week-long marathon? Sunday morning, Sunday night, Wednesday night, and then possibly Friday or Saturday night yet for some special service before starting all over again (not to mention all the other activities connected with church). I get weary just thinking about it! (Ironically, I may also be shutting down my own weekend ministry here!)

Presently our family spends about an hour per week (gasp!) in church. Call us pagan if you like but we’re loving it! Sunday is a day of rest and a great day for our family to connect. I might also add that spiritual growth and development happens throughout the week without pressure to show up at a certain place at a certain time, often in the context of an intentional small group.

So let me ask you: Has church become a rat race for you? Lily Tomlin once said that the problem with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat. Jesus made us human, not rats, and I believe He got it right when He said, “The Sabbath was made for people, not people for the Sabbath” (Mark 2:27). Maybe its time for us to get it right and take a Sabbath from all those “un-Sabbath” activities!

[NOTE: I’ve finally returned to the blogosphere after “drowning” in my seminary studies for several months…I hope to get a few more posts out before the spring semester kicks in!]

Luke Kuepfer | December 11, 2011

David Brubacker December 11, 2011 at 6:23 pm
"church fatigue"--we don't miss it! A simple organic house fellowship has brought us greater freedom from the rat race. Quality time with my wife and 7 and 4 year old girls, time discussing scripture, time answering practical questions and finding answers, time intentionally studying scripture as a family, time informing my children about the pain in the world such as child labor in Bangladesh and the Penn State mess, all time previously eaten by running to "church", now available to serve the Lord! Good post!
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thetruthmadesimple December 11, 2011 at 6:47 pm
Thanks for your input David...the fastest growing church movements in Asia are based on the similar model you're experiencing. My wife and I have really been enjoying connecting intentionally in smaller groups since I started seminary. We also see the value of connecting with the larger body of Christ from time to time in a larger context (church).
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Mike Shrock December 11, 2011 at 11:56 pm
Great post! Christmas time is prime time to feel church fatigue. There are not many things that are more relaxing than spending a Sunday afternoon and evening as a family. Lately I have been feeling like our family time has been eaten up with so much church. Lot's of food for thought.
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thetruthmadesimple December 12, 2011 at 6:14 am
Good is the enemy of best. Everyone has a "wonderful plan" for our lives, unless we've already planned it! God's grace on you Mike and the courage to say "No" so you can say "Yes" to the most important things this season!
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Amy Showalter December 12, 2011 at 9:28 am
I'm so glad you're writing about this! I could talk a long time about this subject! I'll try not to do it here though. =) My husband and i are newly married and these are things we've been hearing God say for the family we are just beginning.We have a small group that meets regularly during the week but some people may see us as slackers because we haven't committed to a specific church. I'm not convinced that we should just accept the norms that we are presented about church these days. Church was His idea, it seems He would be the best one to show us what it should look like beyond the culturally acceptable "institutionalized" version. We're learning, glad to hear your perspectives on this! Amy (ps. met you a long time ago with WATER 2000) =)
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thetruthmadesimple December 12, 2011 at 10:28 am
I wrote this in part to conversations my wife and I were having with others...there's actually a growing number of folks who are getting burned out on too much of a good thing. What's unfortunate is all the pressure to show up to programs in order to show support. Those who don't are considered anti-church, spiritually lazy, or uncommitted when actually for many the opposite is true. Many of us want a higher quality experience of church rather than an inch-deep experience 5 times a week.
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Mike Shrock December 12, 2011 at 10:53 am
There is so much truth in these comments. This past summer I missed a number of church meetings simply because I chose to spend time with my family instead. As a result I felt highly criticized, and was labeled as not commited to the church. These people meant well but they missed the point. Personally, I connected with my family like I never have before. There are no regrets on my part. With that being said, I don't want to come across as anti-church. The church is high on my list of priorities, but I'm unwilling make every event and lose my family.
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thetruthmadesimple December 12, 2011 at 11:35 am
Mike--you're actually being pro-church! Developing yourself and your family by taking Sabbath rest means you have greater potential of making those times at church more meaningful. My response to Amy about inch-deep experiences five times a week is a huge concern of mine. I think more people are getting burned out on church because when they do attend there's nothing compelling or deeply transforming about the experience. I think we need to think more deeply about creating environments where people can actually really worship God, truly hear His voice, and leave inspired to change the world Monday-Saturday.
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Kaye December 12, 2011 at 11:05 am
"Is it possible to experience too much church?" GREAT question! Now that we are no longer in the institutional religion rat-race, we are finally getting some Sabbath rest. We used to be so over-committed to responsibilities & rehearsals & programs & "performances" that Sunday mornings were often hectic & stressful, but now they are restful, refreshing & (dare I say it?) sacred!
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thetruthmadesimple December 12, 2011 at 11:29 am
Wow, Kaye..."Sacred" is the term. Perhaps we all need to go back to the text and study God's perspective on Sabbath.
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Kaye December 13, 2011 at 9:40 am
I heard once about a pastor who was "bragging" that his church had something scheduled every night of the week - to which his friend wisely responded, "And you're proud of that? When is there time for families to be together...?"
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thetruthmadesimple December 13, 2011 at 7:03 am
For those of you interested in the research check out a recent post by the Barna group "Five Myths about Young Adult Church Dropouts" @ http://bit.ly/uoBAqd
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Alice Weaver December 13, 2011 at 7:28 am
Here you go, Luke, getting everybody all riled up. LOLLLL I COULDN`T AGREE MORE. Can I say this part secretly ... I have often wondered - DO WE - like the security of doing something BIG for God disguised under CHRUCH PROGRAMS. It gives us status, resources, a wowwww from others, and very little dependence on God. We operate out of our spiritual gifts & talents instead of learning to walk step -n- step in obedience to God?? Learning to walk this Obedience To God is scary stuff because you never know at times what your next move is. EXCITING --- OH YEAH but it requires ALL. Now throw in all the time filler of sports - game watching, driving, expenses, does it leave much time to go after Gods Best because of the time crunch? OBEDIENCE TO GOD requires consistent - knock out knee time of prayer, loss of sleep, tuned in constantly to the Spirit of God so you know when to move and where!!! and I am not " anti - Church " I think we should learn there and embrace the body of believers and then ... HERE AM I, LORD - SEND ME!! I think following a sermon calling us to a deeper obedience to Him we need to put a " bomb " under the pew to get us upright and moving = FULLY ENGAGED in what we just heard. Thank you, again for taking me to "OneThing" in Pa. Was such a pleasure to meet you and your wife. Wishing you Gods very best.
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Bob Schwartz December 13, 2011 at 11:10 am
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